Do your GF know your Shoe/Heel passion?

[Cammile]

I second that ...... having to hide what you like to do from your wife or girlfriend is fearing that she might think that yo are weird. You should give her the first chance to respond to your fetish. If she doesn't like what you do then she doesn't like who you are. And thats okay to find out because you might as well not invest a bunch of time with this person if she is going to dump you anyway. This is simply it.. If you have someone who loves you for EVERYTHING you do then ...... you have somebody who loves YOU. R-E-S-P-E-C-T and TRUST are #1 in any relationship! This comes before anything else! "You should only have to hide from your enemy's"
Cammile

[oki]

I have had no problems getting my wife to understand my love for heels. But it took me almost 8 years to bring it out. This was my fault though. I got caught looking at other women's feet and heels when we would go out. She didn't appreciate that. She tells me since I have a fetish for feet and heels, staring at another woman's feet and heels are the same as a man with an ass fetish staring at other women's asses.

[Johnny]

Wetshoe, Cammile...

You both are completely right.
But why is it so hard for me to come forward and tell my wife about my muddy heel fetish? I have so wanted to, but it's easier said than done.

We've dated for 5 years and been married for over 1.

[Johnieheel]

You need to find the right way to approach her with it like, Honey, there is something that has been on my mind for a long time and its something about me I think you should know. First of all I'm not a drug dealer or addict and I don't chase little boy's around. By opening up with something like that,she might be expecting the worst and when you tell her about your fun and harmless heel fetish, she'll probably understand and want to even maby try it with you. If she really loves you unconditionaly she'll understand and maby ,just maby she has something to tell you. (it could happen).

[Cammile]

[quote="Johnieheel"]You need to find the right way to approach her with it like, Honey, there is something that has been on my mind for a long time and its something about me I think you should know.

How about .... Honey, there is something thats been on your feet for a long time and there's somthing about me I think you should know about
Kidding

Or you could use the gilt tactic... Us girls are suckers for that. Hmmm lets see... how about this?? Honey, I'm going to ask you something and I hope that you won't think that I'm weird or strange. It's something that I can't quite explain why I like it but is is about a pair of high heels....

[mudheels]

Ok, here is my situation, I used to post on here a while ago until my girlfriend (of almost 2 years now) found some pictures of muddy heels that I had on my computer. This upset her greatly because I had been looking at muddy heel pics/videos (I don't wear them) for about 8 months without her knowing. She understood my liking to high heels and sometimes wears them for me/lets me buy them for her now Very Happy. but... it is the muddy stuff that she cannot understand why I like (but I sometimes don't either). I do not know why I have a liking to the muddy heels, but I have liked looking at women's heels since I was young. Like I said, she will wear heels, but cannot at all understand the muddy stuff I am not willing to lose my girl over this, so I wondered if anyone had any advice for me about what to do. I have not looked at any muddy heels since she caught me. I promised her that I would give them up for her because she said that it is ok if I look at only her that is wearing them, and I think this is fair. She just had a problem with me pleasuring myself to pictures of other girls' heels/muddy heels. I agree with understanding each others' likes and wants (fetishs)" but I don't buy everyone on here saying that if "your significant other doesn't totally agree with the fetish, then you should leave them" I love her far to much for that. I do not obsess over not looking at muddy heels everyday, and I am willing to just look at/enjoy non-muddy heels on her. So all I really want to know is, if anyone else had has a situation like mine where their girlfriend understands their fetishes ... to a point??! and should I suggest looking at muddy stuff just a little, or just be happy that she wears heels for me at all and not be to greedy? I never want to hurt her again like I did when she found those pictures, I was wrong in hiding it to begin with, I was just so afraid of what she would think, and I know that sounds silly now! Offer a thought if you feel so inclined.
p.s. sorry this was soo long...

[josephine]

Well whatever you do or say to your girlfriend be honest with her.

You know in your heart that you will always want to look at other pictures of abused footwear so saying you will give it up for her will just drive a wedge between you because you will always want to do it and most likely do it in secret which is no way to build trust between the two of you.

You need to sit and chat with your gf communicate with her explain that the pictures you look at are about the heels getting muddy not the wearer but when your gf wears the heels its more of a turn on for you because it is HER wearing them for YOU, this way she gets to turn you on doing something as simple as wearing a pair of shoes....

I could paste a few links of things that would make your gf toes curl that you could be in to but you like shoes.............

I could understand her anger if it was full on open leg porn you were looking at but wearing shoes is not really offensive to anyone.

Make her feel special make her remember why your going out together,after all heels should be part of your relationship not all of your relationship.

Don't stop being you for her but maybe a little compromise could be a positive way forward.

Jm.